James said that “If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless” (Jam.1v26). He proceeds in the third chapter to making an indisputable statement that “If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check” (v2).
F.B Meyer, an English pastor (1847 – 1929), explores the areas we often sin with regard to the use of our tongues some of which, on the face it, appear very religious and credible. Hear him:
“The tongue boasts great things. We are all apt to be vain, boastful, exaggerated. We contrive to focus attention on our own words and deeds; even in delivering God’s message we manage to let it be seen that we have a clearer insight into truth or a closer familiarity with God than our fellows.
“We break the law of courtesy, and become harsh, insolent, and uncivil; or the law of purity, and repeat stories that leave a stain; or the law of truth, and practice insincerity; or the law of kindness, and are harsh towards those who are beneath us in station. Or in our desire to stand well with others we are guilty of flattery or servility.
“We disparage other workers; compliment them to their faces and disparage them behind their backs. Alas for us! How great we need to offer the prayer of the psalmist: ‘Set guard over my mouth, O Lord’”
How can we succeed in taming the tongue, this powerful asset that has the greatest capacity for good and evil? There are clear instructions from the best manual ever put together:
- Regenerate and renew the source of its power. The Lord Jesus Christ taught that “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks” (Lk.6v45). Hence Paul advised the Colossians “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him” (Col.3v16-17). So in simple terms, stuff your heart with the word of God, the things that delight the heart of God and out of that overflow will come through your mouth, words that are always full of grace and seasoned with salt, words that heal, encourage and build rather than those that disparage, put down and destroy, words that are full of praises and thanksgiving. Furthermore, we are encouraged to always think about “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things” (Phil.4v8) and as we think in our hearts, the overflow will positively influence our speech. The summary therefore is that we can only restructure the source by substitution rather than by sheer will power.
- Pray for divine control. David’s prayer should be our daily prayer “Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips” (Ps.141v3). When God touched the lips of Jeremiah his communication was transformed and no circumstance was able to pollute the word of God in his mouth.
- Exercise personal control. We must heed James’ advise in chapter one “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (1v19). Solomon observed that “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise” (Prov.10v19). Father, teach us the discipline of silence!
It is amazing the good that can come out of a tamed tongue! Some of these are:
- It guarantees an enjoyable long life “Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies” (Ps. 34v12-13). Solomon observed that “Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment” (Prov.12v19).
- It guarantees the fellowship of His presence. “LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on your holy hill? He whose walk is blameless and who does what is righteous, who speaks the truth from his heart and has no slander on his tongue, who does his neighbour no wrong and casts no slur on his fellowman”(Ps. 15v1-3).
- It brings healing. “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Prov.12v18). Solomon further proceeded to observe that “The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit” (Prov.15v4).
- It protects from danger. Solomon said that “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity” (Prov.21v23).
Lord, “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer” (Ps. 19v14). Amen.